Do you take care of your parents?

[notNewB]

Do you feel responsible for your elderly parents? Do you live with them? Take care of them? How frequently do you talk to them and when was the last time you told them that you love them?

I honestly think that moving out as soon as you turn 18 holds more inconvenience (both physically and emotionally) than the pros of doing so. Yes the parents can have more private time, and yes the child gets the chance to become independent - these are great. But they never outweigh the joy of time spent together, always having someone who you can truly open up to and show your tears to, not letting the bond with your supporter who literally taught you how to walk fade, or simply seeing them not going to sleep late at night waiting for you when you come home after work.

I read somewhere this powerful line - "Be nice to your mom, it's her first time living too". You are your parents' world and it is simply not fair to build your own world and keep your parents outside.

Call your mom or dad boys, and say something nice to them. Just a small talk and you make their entire day.

I start:

 

[TheVigilante]

Yes live with them

Sometimes I do get angry and scold my mom because I suffer from issues like anxiety and brain fog but it's ok

OP your parents have raised a gem kudos to you not many people can say that!

 

[t2van]

Hell no.

Not spoken to mine really for almost 30 years.

Don't need a lecture or a reply saying I should reach out or whatever. It's honestly not needed.

 

[RiskyStuff]

I moved out and my illness progressed.
So I'm back to parents trying to work out something together.
They aren't elderly yet.

 

[Dopious]

Growing up and moved out at 16, the older I get I now know that was a mistake and I think generational living somehow benefits all parties in a normal functional family.

 

[roydan]

I try to take care of my mom. She prefers to take care of herself, but I'll be lying if I said I'm not planning for her retirement.

My father, on the other side.. the biggest loser I know, I have nothing good to say about him. Barely talked to him since I was 13 and didn't answer any of his calls in the last years.

I took my mom's last name.

 

[notNewB]

Growing up and moved out at 16, the older I get I now know that was a mistake and I think generational living somehow benefits all parties in a normal functional family.

especially in the long run

Not spoken to mine really for almost 30 years.

Don't need a lecture or a reply saying I should reach out or whatever. It's honestly not needed.

Not gonna lie, I occasionally feel the same. But then I put her piece of mind above my pride and just go and let her lecture if it gives her piece of mind or any sense of satisfaction, so be it.

But I respect your standpoint.

 

[payal23j]

Well in India, mostly parents staying with them. There is one rule for marriage girls that they need to leave their home and have to stay with husband and there parents.. I mean with In-laws.. In metro cities mostly wife and husband were working so they don't have choice to stay away with them.. I call my mom daily to know how is she? and if i am busy in any stuff she's calling me.. to know should i fine, where you are busy today as since morning you didn't call me so i thought.. then i am explaining her why i am busy or when i think to call her.
But i never share my negative points with her, she started lecture.. you are girl, you have to do such things etc etc etc. so simple talk is better. I speak with my dad rarely.. If i go to my hometown then i am giving him lecture.. Papa you have to do things like this etc etc etc.
I am 40 now but still i need my parents and my parents always same with me... as they think i am still kid and need path for anything, which is true.. I have learned so many things from them... how to save money, how to organize your things, home, kids, valuable items.. how to talk with people.. never argue with anyone, always respect your elders, youngers, employees.. everyone.. which is countless and seriously in every step of my life it helps me a lot and still i am doing the same...

I always scared to ask questions with any of my elders without knowing that what i'll get the answer is YES or NO.. but my papa says... tu ek baar puchle.. agar haan hua tou accha hai aur Naa hua tou bhi koi baat nahi.. tujhe sab pata hai... It means Just ask once.. may be you'll get the answer in YES, if they says NO to you then it's okay.. nothing going to be change.. simple.. which makes my life simple in different ways.

 

[p3n7357]

I moved out of my home since I was 15 and has been almost 15 years in am living on my own but still visit them regularly on weekends. Or they visit me when have time.