Old Employer Is Trying To Ruin New Job? What To Do?

[FrankImawn]

So things have been going well at the new job.

I largely moved on from the old place and the shitty two faced CEO.

But then I got told by my new manager that she just wanted to give me a heads up but my old employer called and said that they'd be better off firing me and hiring someone more capable.

I didn't exact for details on what exactly that meant cause I was just in SHOCK!

I wasn't stupid enough to put that asshole as a reference so he seriously spent the time hunting me down just so he could do this? wtf?

I don't work for that old CEO anymore so why is he acting like he owns my life? I knew he was a psycho but this is just on a whole other level!

Is there anything I can do legally or whatever? I just want this guy off my back.

 

[indianmojojojo]

No point wasting your energy on a psycho as you mentioned.

Why don't you try giving him one last chance, try talking to him. Iron things out.

Also mention if you had over-stepped or hurt him you apologise. So basically apologise even if you are right. From my personal experience it's okay to not make any friends. But never make an enemy.

Last resort go legal. But understand you will also get flagged during this process. Future employers might find you a threat and fear you, they become reluctant hiring you

Am not gas lighting you

My intention is to diffuse this situation. Then win the big picture and throw small wins to the other guy. Some bone for him to chew on

Also wish you the best and am sure you will fix your situation

 

[SirTop]

No point wasting your energy on a psycho as you mentioned.

Why don't you try giving him one last chance, try talking to him. Iron things out.

Also mention if you had over-stepped or hurt him you apologise. So basically apologise even if you are right. From my personal experience it's okay to not make any friends. But never make an enemy.

Last resort go legal. But understand you will also get flagged during this process. Future employers might find you a threat and fear you, they become reluctant hiring you

Am not gas lighting you

My intention is to diffuse this situation. Then win the big picture and throw small wins to the other guy. Some bone for him to chew on

Also wish you the best and am sure you will fix your situation

Sounds like the smart thing to do here, honestly IMO. Try to be the bigger person : )

If there’s a way to talk it out with him... your main aim is for him to leave you alone.
If that will help with your own peace of mind, it might be worth doing

But OP, for your manager to even inform you about this shows they trust you and want to keep you, regardless of what your former employer has said about you.

I don’t think him reaching out would change anything in your new job.

But seeing how petty your old employer can be, you might be better off sorting it out with him. You don’t know how far he’d be willing to go to dent your rep over whatever he has against you.

Lilttle chat over a call could potentially put an end to it (I guess)

 

[SilverClouds]

What's happening at the new job? You got that promotion regardless or actually have problems now because of that call? What a douche.

Never been an employee, but as a freelancer had - believe it or not - prospects that *never were my clients* go around facebook groups where freelancers look for clients and badmouth me, lol. It was quite easy to deal with, I just replied publicly that they were never my clients and cause me problems because I didn't want to work for free. This didn't have a negative impact on my sales. As far as actual past clients went, most don't give me negative reviews but if someone is really butthurt because I didn't work myself to death for a cheap price (I work proportionally to how much I get paid - a lil bit of service if cheap, very thourough if they pay more) then they threaten that they'll post a negative review and I threaten them back that I'll sue them if they do. So I guess employee version would be telling him you'll sue?

 

[polecat]

You can report this CEO for employment abuse to a politician or other employment groups for example if you are part of labour groups they can help you.

I am guessing you are American, so you will have whatever the American version of our employment protection rules for yourself.

Guessing it company you can easily report him to the shareholders for misconduct towards you .

 

[roydan]

Use AI to put his image in a coldplay concert with the head of HR

 

[shattered world]

I saw this on Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/Wellthatsucks/s/dtXYRJ4Q7C

The former employer did the same thing to this guy that happened to you. This guy ended up getting fired.

Some guys in the comments said that you could sue the former employer for this but who knows if you would win.

 

[FrankImawn]

No point wasting your energy on a psycho as you mentioned.

Why don't you try giving him one last chance, try talking to him. Iron things out.

Also mention if you had over-stepped or hurt him you apologise. So basically apologise even if you are right. From my personal experience it's okay to not make any friends. But never make an enemy.

Last resort go legal. But understand you will also get flagged during this process. Future employers might find you a threat and fear you, they become reluctant hiring you

Am not gas lighting you

My intention is to diffuse this situation. Then win the big picture and throw small wins to the other guy. Some bone for him to chew on

Also wish you the best and am sure you will fix your situation

I don't know about apologizing for something when I wasn't wrong. That just seems like a bad idea and if he's already messing with me like this then it already seems like he's my enemy.

I don't know I'll think about it but that doesn't feel right.

Sounds like the smart thing to do here, honestly IMO. Try to be the bigger person : )

If there’s a way to talk it out with him... your main aim is for him to leave you alone.
If that will help with your own peace of mind, it might be worth doing

But OP, for your manager to even inform you about this shows they trust you and want to keep you, regardless of what your former employer has said about you.

I don’t think him reaching out would change anything in your new job.

But seeing how petty your old employer can be, you might be better off sorting it out with him. You don’t know how far he’d be willing to go to dent your rep over whatever he has against you.

Lilttle chat over a call could potentially put an end to it (I guess)

OK I'll try talking to him. I mean I already tried talking to him loads of times when I worked there and all the guy did was gaslight me and talk behind my back but I guess it's worth a try for the millionth time. Like I really tried being upfront and honest with him but he was just really paranoid.

Who knows maybe I'll get through to him this time....

What's happening at the new job? You got that promotion regardless or actually have problems now because of that call? What a douche.

Never been an employee, but as a freelancer had - believe it or not - prospects that *never were my clients* go around facebook groups where freelancers look for clients and badmouth me, lol. It was quite easy to deal with, I just replied publicly that they were never my clients and cause me problems because I didn't want to work for free. This didn't have a negative impact on my sales. As far as actual past clients went, most don't give me negative reviews but if someone is really butthurt because I didn't work myself to death for a cheap price (I work proportionally to how much I get paid - a lil bit of service if cheap, very thourough if they pay more) then they threaten that they'll post a negative review and I threaten them back that I'll sue them if they do. So I guess employee version would be telling him you'll sue?

The new job is going great! I'm just really bothered about what the former employer CEO guy did. It's like leave me alone you know?