Respect Your Elders

[payal23j]

I always like talking to older people. They are usually much more polite, and they don’t come from a generation that is heavily influenced by social media.

That will be your parents or grand parents.. Still my parents don't know how to use fb, instagram and other social apps. They have their phones but for what's app which my father learned from me but still my mom don't know how to use and for calls only.

 

[Rem]

most people don't even know what respect really is
most confuse respect with people lowering their heads and currying favor.

 

[Dopious]

most people don't even know what respect really is
most confuse respect with people lowering their heads and currying favor.

Yes Mistress *bowing deeply*

 

[ggmopa]

Reading through the comments. Seems to be a lot of misunderstanding between 'common courtesy' and 'reverance'. You can respect someone to your own standards, passively as a human being without needing to respect them as individuals; as personalities, again, to your own standards. I also like to give people - generally anyone I meet, within reason, at least a benefit of a doubt. May just have caught them on a bad day or at a bad time. The former is a benchmark, and the latter is very individualistic, interpersonal and works on a case by case basis.

 

[demonic_man]

Well, I am one of your elders and I say don’t respect your elders just because they’re your elders.

It’s a line I heard much growing up but one I think needs to be done away with.

Age isn’t wisdom and there are plenty in my age group who have no business giving advice on life… or anything else for that matter.

Respect them if they show you respect, not just because of their age.

My respect thing is simple!

I give respect first and then if i get it back, I continue to respect; otherwise, I am also known as a bad guy

 

[1974Mustang]

It's good to see so many different opinions and thoughts on this topic.

I'm glad I started it here.

Signed,

A Boomer

 

[Berry Scary]

most people don't even know what respect really is
most confuse respect with people lowering their heads and currying favor.

Reading through the comments. Seems to be a lot of misunderstanding between 'common courtesy' and 'reverance'. You can respect someone to your own standards, passively as a human being without needing to respect them as individuals; as personalities, again, to your own standards. I also like to give people - generally anyone I meet, within reason, at least a benefit of a doubt. May just have caught them on a bad day or at a bad time. The former is a benchmark, and the latter is very individualistic, interpersonal and works on a case by case basis.

Yeah, I was going to say that it looks like this becomes something of a contentious topic because people have so many different definitions of what 'respecting' someone really means.

There are some that think being civil and polite is being respectful. To me, I can be civil and polite to someone, but that doesn't mean I respect them.

 

[t2van]

There are some that think being civil and polite is being respectful.

It's the foundation of respect no?

 

[Berry Scary]

It's the foundation of respect no?

As far as I'm aware, the definition of respect is to have or demonstrate an admiration or high regard for something/someone else.

If I'm being civil or courteous to someone just to keep the peace, but in my head I think they are full of shit, am I still respecting them? I don't personally think so, but others may say yes.

 

[Rem]

It's the foundation of respect no?

no
i can be a dick but still respect you tho

 

[Zwielicht]

Either they elders or younger, now a days things being straight.. if you respect you'll get respect, if you not they can't.. or sometimes if they not respecting your thoughts or you than stop giving them.. they are elders but doesn't mean to disrespect your younger ones. In India from childhood parents teach us give respect either they give you or not.. but now i stop all.. In my family all are expecting a lot from me. I did everything the best or much better i can do but after few days they started complaining.. this that.. pls go from my life.. i stop talking with them, stop everything.. just still doing my things as a human being. Now they are saying before you are too good but not now.. seriously that time you have a list of complaints. Now i am enjoying myself as i want to do.

I had a similar change over the last couple of years where I stopped giving respect to people who were disrespecting me.

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